The Lack of Effort

A few things convened or occurred within this time period which points me to this lesson I have to learn.

For one, my girlfriend have decided I don't seem to care enough to make any gifts worthy of her except for the very first gift. Honestly, I thought otherwise...I thought I've always been trying to be hands-on and make gifts for her. Well, not that they turn out great...but still there are stuff which I put effort into...And this brings me to the claim I often make...that I'm simply not romantic enough to be any more inspired to make better gifts or create a meaningful or romantic ambience or situation for our special days...

But I realised that is the limitation I set upon myself -- The same way I limit myself by telling myself and others that I simply cannot look good and attractive or even feel good about myself. But as my little "makeover" experience shows...I can be satisfied or even amazed at how my image can be so much better with some effort on my part to do so.

That brings me to think of my efforts in growing my forex trading abilities. And what Clarence said about approaching forex from a viewpoint of intending to survive on trading full-time -- that it would drastically shorten our learning curve since we would be more serious. To come clean...I haven't even used or tried the system I've been taught by Clarence with any bit of faithfulness.

2 reference to sources of my learning. One is Kiyosaki in his "Retire Young Retire Rich" which I happen to be reading right now. The keyword here is CONTEXT! So what is context? Well...it can be seen as capacity...like a capacity of a jug...(I should really draw the diagram here) Think about this...can a jug hold 30litres of water if it's capacity is 10litres? NO! So the only way we can improve beyond our current limitations is to grow our capacity, by expanding the jug. And the way we can do that is by getting inspired by hearing success stories, by reading, by opening our mind to new possibilities, by defining new realities for ourselves. And that's a really important step for me to take now. To stop telling myself I can't...that I'm unattractive...I can't be that successful in making the money I want...I can't be romantic...and accept that I CAN!

The other source is on deliberate effort. It expounds the fact that most "geniuses" actually spend alot more time and directed and planned effort in improving themselves in their field than what is widely recognised when they become successful. And that is an attempt at improving content, or the volume of the water in the jug. But I think it really starts with expanding the jug and then the topping up of the volume(or know-how) comes in later. I lost the link...but I'll try to put it up later.